Today is Valentine’s Day, a day to celebrate the great romantic love in your life, if you have one. But I’d like to ask you to consider celebrating self-love today as well. Because, truly, that’s where it all begins.
How can you be kind to yourself today? Perhaps you can start by taking today off from self-judgment and criticism, especially if you’ve been beating yourself up for not having a love interest. There are many reasons that you’re choosing singlehood right now and being on your own gives you the time to take the best care of yourself. Keep in mind that self-love and self-acceptance are very attractive, and when you’re ready, you’ll call in just the right partner.
If your love relationship is currently on the rocks or you’re just coming out of something that wasn’t working, perhaps you can spend some loving time with yourself today and journal about where you’re at and where you’ve been. Self-love demands self-compassion and self-connection and that means taking the time to explore your emotions, needs and thoughts.
What can you do for yourself today to feel special and loved? When was the last time you bought flowers for yourself or treated yourself to a message? If you’re an overeater or over-spender, see if you can find a non-food, non-shopping way to honor yourself today. When was the last time you took a candle-lit bubble bath? Or allowed yourself to dance to your favorite music? Or stayed up late watching a favorite movie or reading a great book?
There’s no need to let this Hallmark generated day make you blue. There’s a wonderful, incredible being, staring back at you in the mirror, just waiting to be celebrated. All you need is love.
Wishing you a wonderful, self-loving Valentine’s Day.
Posted by Julie M Simon, MA, MBA, MFT, psychotherapist and life coach, certified personal trainer, founder and director of The 12 Week Emotional Eating Recovery Program and author of The Emotional Eater’s Repair Manual and When Food Is Comfort. If you have a question or topic you’d like to see addressed in this blog, go to https://overeatingrecovery.com.
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