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Do You Want to Feel Special and Loved this Valentine’s Day?

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Today is Valentine’s Day and I’d like you to consider taking self-love seriously. I invite you to be your own valentine today. I know, I know–this is a day when you’re “suppose” to celebrate the great romantic love in your life–and you can do that as well, if you have one. But I’d like you to celebrate self-love today

Resolve to be Kind to and Patient with Yourself this New Year

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Will you be making any New Year's resolutions this year about losing weight, getting in shape or stopping your emotional eating? If you're like most Americans, you'll make one or more resolutions along those lines. And then, a few weeks into the new year, you may be wondering where all those good intentions went. I've

The Weight of Thanksgiving

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Thanksgiving is a time when most of us overeat. It’s just what we do on this holiday, right? We eat until we’re stuffed, and then when we have a little room opening up again in the old digestive tract, we fill it back up immediately. Hours later, we do it all over again. It’s okay–we’re

Does Your Eating Have an Emotional Component to It?

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We all eat for emotional reasons some of the time. Let's face it: food is convenient, pleasurable and exciting. It can also be comforting and soothing. And eating is a way to distract ourselves from dealing with the things we don't want to deal with, right? Generally, we're not bothered by a little emotional eating

Are You Eating Over Unmet Expectations?

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Jackie baked a batch of chocolate chip cookies after spending Saturday afternoon with her close friend Carol. The time spent with Carol did not feel nourishing.  The two dishes of ice cream and the plate of hot, freshly baked cookies did. Just baking the cookies felt more nurturing than spending time with Carol. Jackie was

Are You Taking Things Too Personally?

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I could tell when I entered the waiting room of my office that Samantha was having a bad day. She appeared depressed--she sat slumped in the chair and she was visibly upset. Her mascara was running and she looked like she had been crying. Unlike times when she was more upbeat, she was not distracting herself with her phone

Making Lasting Lifestyle Changes

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It's summertime and perhaps you're feeling motivated to make some positive lifestyle changes like reducing your intake of processed foods, exercising more, drinking more water and less caffeine and attacking your clutter. Yet, when you contemplate these changes, you wonder if you'll really be able to make them this time. After all, how many summers

Self-Doubt and Overeating: What’s the Connection?

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Everyone struggles with self-doubt occasionally. It's not only normal to experience self-doubt, it's actually healthy and a sign that you're open minded and questioning your choices, abilities and behaviors. A little self-doubt is humbling, keeping our self-confidence in check and reminding us that we're still mortals who make mistakes and have short-comings. The key is not

Stressed Out and Overeating?

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We all feel the effects of stress, from agitated moods to tension in our bodies leading to chronic pain and illness. Stress in small doses can actually be useful. The stress you feel before a big exam may just be the motivation you need to increase your study time. Chronic job dissatisfaction may be the needed stressor to change jobs or go back

Do You Feel Worthy of Self-Love?

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We've all heard it said that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself.  And although we know there's truth to this old adage, most of us persist in looking for love outside of ourselves, often in all the wrong places. In one of my emotional eating groups this week, we discussed the concept of worthiness.  I asked the